I’m writing this Fall Bucket List blog post, sitting in my office wearing Uggs, sipping a pumpkin spice latte, while burning my new fave candle. Fall is basically every girl’s favorite season. Since it only comes once a year, I like to get a jump star on it and make sure I celebrate it to its fullest potential. Continue Reading
One of the questions I get asked the most is how I / we handle being in a long distance relationship. Let me start by saying, it’s not always long distance! But realistically, Tony spends 200+ days of the year touring. Which means he’s not home a lot of the time.
While our “long distance” relationship is definitely a little different at times, I realized that in a lot of ways it’s very similar to other long distance relationships. Whether you’re with your high school sweetheart and going to different colleges, or living in different parts of the country for work, the same tips apply.
Long Distance Relationship Survival Guide
One of the main reasons I decided to leave my corporate job and start my own business was for our relationship. I wasn’t happy working a normal 9-5 job. When Tony’s home, sometimes it’s only for a week at a time in between tours. Being able to spend extra time with him when he’s home is really important to me. It’s definitely not a deal breaker for most couples and I know that I’m very, VERY fortunate to have that flexibility. It also gives me the flexibility to travel with him and travel on my own / visit my family up north when he’s gone. Generally, when he’s home (for shorter periods of time) I work a little less. When he’s gone, I end up working all day and into the night.
Stay Busy and Productive
Being busy is one of my biggest tips. Sitting at home all day and having a pity party on the couch will make time go by slowly, very slowly.
Like I said, I invest myself into work & projects. I like to do more DIY projects, cook new recipes, go to the gym, have dates with friends, learn new things, etc.
When Tony’s gone, I tend to focus on a lot of goals that take more of my time. For instance, I’ll edit a ton of pictures and get them ready for blog posts, so that when he’s home I have more tim.
Just like Destiny’s Child said…Depend on no-one else to give you what you want. I’m an extremely independent person. I like having my alone time and doing things on my own. Long distance relationships are definitely harder when you’re not super independent.
I like to plan trips on my own to explore and see new things. I have no problem going to eat at a restaurant or going to a movie alone. It’s actually really relaxing!
Both of us had our own lives and careers when we met, luckily they blended together really well. But because I have my own “scene”, it helps me stay positive when he’s not home.
Set A Routine
This applies to both when you’re on your own & when you visit each other.
When he’s gone, I have a pretty standard schedule and it helps time fly by. I go to the gym almost every day, run errands afterwards and then work. Routinely going to the gym and getting out of the house is really helpful and keeps me positive and productive.
When we’re apart we make an effort not to go longer than 2-3 weeks without seeing each other. I’m lucky that I am my own boss and can also work/turn travel into work. I know that that’s not realistic for all couples. But it’s important to make sure you don’t leave travel open ended. Having dates to count down to is also really motivating.
Communication is Key
This is probably my biggest piece of advice. Not only is it important to communicate, i.e. call, Face Time, text; it’s also important to be honest and open.
If you’re having a bad day or are struggling (which happens to everyone), it’s important to communicate your feelings. Bottling them up, just like in any scenario, never ends well.
We text message all day long and always talk on the phone once a day. Usually before one of us goes to bed, that way no matter what time zones we’re in, we make it happen.
Focus on the Positive
As hard as it can be having a significant other gone for long periods of time or living far away, it’s not always a bad thing. If you are in a long distance relationship and making it work, it only makes your relationship that much stronger. I always say, if he was anyone else, it wouldn’t work. It works because we have a really solid relationship and the distance doesn’t change anything, it just reminds us what we have.
As you now know, we’re major nerds at our house. Our house is filled with Star Wars props, art work & toys. I mean, we go to Comic-Con every year and I even cosplay for it. Last night I was wide awake at 2 AM and stumbled upon something truly magical… Pottery Barn now has both Star Wars & Harry Potter themed home decor! Ok, so it’s actually PB Teen, but their home decor is totally made for the true fan within. Continue Reading
We were in Denver a few weeks ago and had literally one of the best weekends ever. If you haven’t watched ourYouTube video yet, get on that. While you’re at, you should probable check out my first recap of our trip…
Anyways. I’ve been dreaming of the Saturday I spent begin wined and dined at the Four Seasons Denver. It was literally my dream day… so obviously I felt the need to share it – and a million pics with you guys. Continue Reading
“Self Care” is an ominous and kind of vague subject. I feel like a lot of times it has a negative connotation and people are embarrassed to talk about it. As if everyone doesn’t have shitty days or periods in their life when they’re confused, struggling to figure their life out, depressed, or simply in a slump. Guess what!? We all have our bad days, weeks & years. There’s nothing to be ashamed of! You’re not alone and the feelings you feel aren’t weird. Instead of alienating yourself because of your feelings, I think it’s important to bridge the gap and drop the stigma associated with self care. Continue Reading
The first time I ever ordered a Mexican Pizza was at Taco Bell. Literally everything at Taco Bell is amazing. Unfortunately, I can’t live off off of T-Bell. Recently, Tony and I have been on a major pizza making kick. We got a new grill and love throwing pizzas on the bbq! It’s literally one of the easiest, tastiest dinners. We’ve started getting creative, throwing pizza making parties for our friends & putting out tons of fun toppings. Everything from leftover bbq chicken to buffalo Alfredo sauce. The next obvious creation on our list was a Mexican Pizza. Let me tell you… it did not disappoint. Continue Reading
Its been a while since Tony, Doug & I got to go on a family vacation! Doug got to get his puppy passport this summer and go with me to Mexico, but Tony was on tour and couldn’t make it. I’ve been racking my brain for last minute mini-vacay ideas. I was doing some late night Pinterest-ing and stumbled upon a bunch of photos of Denver. Denver is one of the few places I’ve never visited Tony on tour because it’s so close to home that it usually doesn’t make sense to plan a visit around! Continue Reading
We got back from Denver almost a week ago and I’ve been totally slacking on editing photos and video from our trip. If you follow me on the gram, you may have noticed my hand is out of commission. I woke up during our trip to insane pain in my middle finger and hand and ended up in urgent care. Sadly, the time we spent at the doctor’s ate into a lot of our sight seeing. But we were still able to do, see & eat quite a bit in the few days we had! I can’t wait to share more pictures from our stay at the Four Seasons Denver. Continue Reading
Is there really such a thing as too much glitter? NOPE! Remember that one time I did a confetti photoshootand had glitter stuck in my hair for weeks? Totally worth it. For all my glitter loving gals, this next post has your name written all over it! Not only do these glitter ice cubes make a pretty decoration, you can actually eat them! Or I guess technically drink them! They look oh so sparkly in water, wine or even a mixed drink! I highly recommend whipping up a batch for your next party or girls night! Continue Reading